Your #1 Relationship: Your Wedding Planner

Wedding planners can truly be a gift from the heavens. The first step, though, is often the hardest; finding one you deem worthy. 

If someone is being paid to organize the details of your wedding day, they better be making it their main priority. They should be just as enthusiastic about it as you are, and have ALL of your best interests in mind. That being said, there are going to be some conversations you are comfortable having with them before making any firm decisions. This relationship is going to be vital to the success of your vision. 

Money Talk

Let’s get right to the nitty-gritty. You MUST be comfortable talking about money with your wedding planner, and it should probably be one of the very first topics you cover. If you get an uneasy feeling discussing money with them for whatever reason, it’s best to cut ties early on and find someone who makes you feel like it’s an easy and natural conversation, and who you don’t feel like might drain your bank account. 

Bringing up the budget with someone who needs to follow a budget is very, very necessary. Some planners might be used to planning for a specific budget, and if it’s higher than yours, it might not end up being a good fit. On the other hand, having a planner who’s too frugal could leave you with fewer options for things you’d actually like to splurge on.

Bottom line though, the conversation needs to be had, and it should be a fairly easy-going one. 


Understanding your wedding style is another big one! If you keep explaining your vision, and what they’re re-playing back to you just isn’t hitting the mark, it might be time to start the next planner interview. 

Of course, your own style is going to require some explaining and examples, but you don’t want to feel like you have to babysit your planner’s every move because they just don’t quite “get it”. Make sure you vibe with them, and everything else should fall into place. 

Get Personal

Okay, so we aren’t saying make them memorize your social security number, but you need to get a little up close and personal with the person who’s going to be executing your wedding day plans! You’re ultimately going to want small, personal details that will make your wedding less generic and more “YOU”. The only way for that to happen is for your planner to know about you. 

Don’t be afraid to talk about yourself! It can get exhausting listening to so much about yourself, but it’s their job! Let them hear it! 

Understand Their Process

Take all of your expectations of how you’d ideally like the wedding process to go and compare notes! Everyone works differently. Do you remember doing group projects in school? Remember how you worked with some kids so much better than others?

The same is true with wedding planning! It won’t come easily or naturally with just anyone, so make sure you feel the connection before you commit. 

It’s your day, and they’re just there to make it easier. Make sure that exactly what they do!